I've only read a smattering of Spander, but a lot of it seems to allude to it being either Anya's fault or that it wasn't meant to be because Xander is really attracted to boys.
Xander broke off with Anya because he was afraid of growing up and assuming adult responsibilities, afraid of getting stuck in a domestic life of recrimination and abuse, and he was worried that he was the one unfit for marriage.
Excellent point. Are there Spander stories set post-wedding break up where Xander comes to terms, via Spike's assistance, the fact that it wasn't (just) about being gay that caused him to leave Anya, but all the fear things you just mentioned? I would think that some self-discovery and growth from that angle would make for an excellent fic.
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Date: 2004-08-24 02:27 pm (UTC)I've only read a smattering of Spander, but a lot of it seems to allude to it being either Anya's fault or that it wasn't meant to be because Xander is really attracted to boys.
Xander broke off with Anya because he was afraid of growing up and assuming adult responsibilities, afraid of getting stuck in a domestic life of recrimination and abuse, and he was worried that he was the one unfit for marriage.
Excellent point. Are there Spander stories set post-wedding break up where Xander comes to terms, via Spike's assistance, the fact that it wasn't (just) about being gay that caused him to leave Anya, but all the fear things you just mentioned? I would think that some self-discovery and growth from that angle would make for an excellent fic.