You absolutely have the right to say "I hate it when Y happens in fandom." When Y="someone discussing something boring to me in public when I think they should send it privately to every individual who might benefit from it, or just shut the heck up" and the way you choose to say it is to do so publically in a discussion forum, instead of sending it privately to the person who's annoying you, you rather undercut your own case.
And your constructive solution was (albeit more politely worded) "Send specific private feedback and stop annoying me with your more general public postings." Believe it or not, that's neither an original idea (People *do* send private feedback and have been doing so for decades, and it doesn't serve the same purpose as a public discussion) or necessarily constructive for anyone but you. It did give you the chance to refer to the person who's annoying you as passive aggressive, preachy, self-congratulatory, and a number of other thinly-disguised insults, under the guise of "constructiveness" -- which seems pretty passive-agressive to me. Am I wrong?
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Date: 2003-04-15 03:09 pm (UTC)And your constructive solution was (albeit more politely worded) "Send specific private feedback and stop annoying me with your more general public postings." Believe it or not, that's neither an original idea (People *do* send private feedback and have been doing so for decades, and it doesn't serve the same purpose as a public discussion) or necessarily constructive for anyone but you. It did give you the chance to refer to the person who's annoying you as passive aggressive, preachy, self-congratulatory, and a number of other thinly-disguised insults, under the guise of "constructiveness" -- which seems pretty passive-agressive to me. Am I wrong?